Messages posted by: unourjeluz

I would also like to add,my son was taken out of the gifted program. Not because his grades were bad,but because he would finish his work earlier than the rest and they thought that it was a distraction for the other kids. The rule was when they finihed they were to play quietly on the internet until the others had finished. Him being on the internet was a distraction because the other kids would watch what he was doing instead of doing their work.

My son was bullied by children in school to the point we had to withdraw him . He was called gay ,retarded etc. When I contacted the school they tried to tell me he was misinterpreting the slang the kids were using and taking it very literal. The kids really didnt mean it. My son came home crying every night.I also had a school principal tell me she didnt think my son had AS,that he was just a loner,until I told her that Childrens Hosp. had diagnosed him. I also had teachers tell me there was nothing wrong with him except he was lazy!I have struggled with the schools. He did decide to go back to reg. school this yar and has had no problems with bullying that I know of.They still will not implement an IEP or any sort of help for him. They say they dont have the funding and his grades are too good. I told them he needs help with the social aspect of things espeacially since he is 14. He starts high school this coming year and still I have gotten no help. I have been trying snce he was 10. The only help they offer is to tell me to homeschool my son if I feel it is necessary. This would be fine,only,he doesnt want to be homeschooled and I cant help him with social skills the way he needs to be helped. It's frustrating!

I think that it does help with social interactions in some ways. My oldest is 14 and has AS. His younger brothers are 11 and 9. I think having siblings has helped him learn to more confidently adapt to social situations ,positive and negative(he and his youngest brother have conflicting personalities). It has also taught my other to children to be understanding with people who have disabilities. I do however feel as though my typical children may feel as though the oldest steals all of the attention at times.It can also be frightening to them when he has his tantrums. Another problem is that he does very well in academics,it comes easy for him. So it can be disheartening for my other children when they bring home a "B" and I tell them I'm proud and they have their brother pipe up with "All you got was a B,I got a 100 on that it was so easy!" I think my typical kids could be depressed at times and have low self esteem at times because of the oldest. So not only do I have to take care of the oldest and make sure he's doing what he needs to do,I constantly am having to boost the others self-confidence and make sure they are ok.
Also,because my 14 year old is immature he will get into physical fights with my 9 year old. He doesnt hit him hard because honestly I dont think he wants to hurt him,he's just being immature. But I think what if he ever does hit him too hard etc. He has the body of a man and the mind of a child.

Punya wrote:

Hi, I'm new to the forum and this is my first post. I fostered a boy when he was 4 months old. His mother has an intellectual disability and his father adhd, learning disability and a later diagnosis of schizophrenia. My boy now 19 years old has multiple disabilities including a heart condition, mild cerebral palsy, scoliosis/kyphosis, mild intellectual disability and autistic spectrum disorder. His challenging behaviours mostly meltdowns and transition difficulties are his most disabling conditions. He has some recent episodes of hallucinations and delusions so we are watching carefully for early psychosis. I'm interested in the link between autism and schizophrenia.

I WOULD ACTUALLY BE INTERESTED IN THIS AS WELL. MY SON HAS AS,I BELIEVE I DO BUT REMAIN UNDIAGNOSED AND MY FATHER IS SCHIZOPHRENIC.

MY OLDEST HAS AUTISM,HIS TWO YOUNGER BROTHERS BOTH HAVE SPEECH PROBLEMS.